Love at the time of grief?

Why try to force love when you don't have a stomach for it?
Why not try to come to terms with the fact what is now and real?
Love happens when it happens, like meditation. The only effort that is required is to create the conditions for it, like planting a seed and giving it water, shade, protection etc. And the seed sprouts one day. Grief in itself has so much to teach if you can stay with it instead of trying to run away from it by creating the illusion of love or whatever else. In fact grief can teach more than love because your imagination is always about love and such comforting emotions; whereas grief is what happens in reality even when you try to avoid it. Like death. Someone close to you is going to die sometime or the other and you cannot avoid death or the grief that it brings. That is certain. But love has no such guarantee. And anyway both of these are emotions with a certain shelf life. Both are bound to disperse once their lesson has been imparted. The question is - were you awake when the lesson was being imparted? Or were you dreaming about love when grief was delivering its lecture!